In my opinion, we must have good communication's skill in order to "survive" in this world.
Why did i said so?
We need it when working, socializing, even in love.
As an example, two young students were friend at the beginning of the university's life, however, they became a sweet couple after they falling in love with each others.
No doubt that they are very sweet at the beginning of the period of they are together. Great!
But after that, they found that they were arguing for something that very easy to settle for everyone who are still single. (examples:men like football, games, etc...women like shopping, romantic dating, etc...)
As a man, should he stop arguing with his lover because "gentleman" concept?
Perhaps he is so scare to argue with his lover because he is so scare to lose his lover?
For some people (men), they will just avoid to argue with his lover and stop doing their hobbies anymore.
They sacrifice their hobbies because of love. They will just do whatever that they think their lovers like them to do.
Is this really correct in terms of communication?
Is that really no other ways to stop arguing when discussing this topic?
Girls : Stop going to play football!
Boys : Ok you're right.
From the conversation above, i don't think that is a correct way to communicate.
Men cannot tend to avoid arguing by accepting any methods/comments of his lover.
Another example:
Boy: Stop buying clothes. That cost me half month's salary.
Girl: I'm not using your money.
They are encourage to communicate. Even a terrorist also want to have negotiation.
They should sit down together and solve the problems but not just avoid talking this topic again.
Hence, when you love each other, don't try to be selfish.
In addition, when there is no communication, there is no love. Is it correct?
Love is for two people, and of course anyone in love need to sacrifice but not only one side is sacrificing.
There is no love for just one.
If there is some problems that you faced and i just mentioned above, in my opinion, they really should communicate but not arguing/stopping/doubting others from doing their activities except one of them is doing exactly wrong/illegal thing.
Try do not argue the same thing again and again, try to communicate. It is the only way to stop argue.
Avoid makes problems become serious.
When communicate, our feeling must be in a very calm situation.
There is no way to communication if some one is very "hot".
For those who are trying to maintain their love with problems and always trying to avoid communication, you are in a dangerous situation.
For those who are trying to make your lover loves you, just try to communicate, do not avoid. You will success.
This blog is based on my opinion but not pointing anyone there because I'm also not doing well.
Communicate practically is really harder than ideally. But try at least. Haha.
I really like to see and learn how people communicate in a good way and they are loved by anyone.
Furthermore, EQ is playing a significant role when communication. We should know when to do what but not doing things without consider any consequences.
Think of yourself, and others. Make sure your decisions always correct although it is really hard and sometimes impossible.
We are human and we are always trying. Forgive those who did wrong but when they know they are wrong.
Through good communication's skill with EQ, we will success soon. ^^
By JackCWK.
